Breaking news in our house! My son Sandor has had the same best friend for a very long time, Sam. And now he has a girl friend! Sam rarely speaks to anyone he doesn’t know very well so this was a surprise. Sandor and Sam are twelve. But Sam has beautiful blonde hair and a gorgeous smile so we should have seen it coming. According to Sandor they even walk around the halls with their arms around each other and Sam walks right up to his red headed girl and tickles her.
The quiet one has moves! And now Sandor really wants a girlfriend.
Last night after the boys showered and were in bed with the puppy, I stood at the end of their bed and made what I thought to be a pretty informative mom speech.
I told them they would both have lots of girl friends and every time a new love came along they would want to dedicate their lives to her. She would become the most important thing in the world to them, even if nobody else liked her too much. “You’ll blow off all your friends to hang with her on the weekends. You’ll ignore all the texts and phone calls. You’ll try to skip football practice. You won’t even have time to go fishing with your buddy because humans are programed to choose love. It’s the way God made us. Every time you fall in love you’ll think this is it , this is the love that will change the world and you will choose love over your friends and family. It’s not because you guys don’t love us anymore, so none of us can take it personally, it’s just the way we’re made. So neither one of you guys can get your feelings hurt too bad or get mad at each other. It happens to everybody.”
“And then two months down the road when you find out the hot girl was a mean little sneak and break up…you’ll be there to distract you from the heartbreak. any questions?”
then Sam said, “I’m going to her house this Saturday.”
“Dude, we have the taekwondo tournament.” Sandor whined.
“And I already paid Sam so I’m overriding your plans this time but that’s pretty much how it’s gonna roll from here on. Now go to sleep. I love you.”
A few minutes latter I overheard them plotting in the dark, trying to figure out how to get Sandor a girl friend too. I felt better, armed with some mom knowledge, I knew their friendship would survive. And they wouldn’t be completely blindsided by the shrapnel of love.