Last Sunday was horribly cold and raining. Sandor and I went to Walmart, then sprinted back to the car, splashing in nearly freezing puddles. After putting the fifteen bags of groceries into the car we jumped in, soaked, shivering and laughing.
I was so cold my fingers shook as I turned the key. And there was that horrible silence. Sandor and I looked at each other as I tried again. I’d left the lights on and the battery was dead.
I took a deep breath before calling my husband, Alex. I knew he’d just gotten home from a miserable nightmare of a day at work. He’d gone in at 4:30 am, to face frozen boilers, employees who didn’t show up, and a flooded kitchen.
When I explained what had happened he sighed heavily and my heart broke just a little. Then he said, “I’ll be there in fifteen.”
Sandor and I managed to save the parking spot directly in front of my car so he could pull his truck right up to my bumper. He arrived, jumped out, raised the hood then I saw him shake his head and wince.
“What’s wrong?” I asked.
He looked down and so did I. He’d left the house in his slippers, no socks, and was standing in a puddle of nearly frozen water. “Oh Lord, I’m so sorry,” I said.
And that’s when he laughed a little and made a joke. He and Sandor hooked up the cables as the rain turned to freezing rain. He kept shaking his hands, trying to get them warm. Briefly he explained the positive and negative terminals to Sandor who is eleven, before he signaled for me to crank the engine.
Here’s what Alex never did. He never griped or yelled at me. He didn’t try to make me feel any worse than I already did. He didn’t complain once though it was a horrid and painful situation.
Instead he saved his wife and set a good example for his son. I don’t want Sandor to grow up to be the kind of man who gets mad at his wife for being human. He can follow his dad’s example.
There are times Alex screws up big time. Last week I bought a new skirt for an event we had to attend. I got dressed and he casually said, “That outfit makes you look really boxy.”
I was mad and sad and crushed and he was standing on paper thin ice about to fall into the frigid waters of “Lake Pissed-Off Wife”.
But when I really needed him he was there. And he almost smiled.