This morning Lexie stood in the bathroom doorway as I was putting on my makeup. “Talk to Sandor about Kennedy, she’s kicking him in the groin on the playground.”
Kennedy is Sandor’s ex-girlfriend. They are in fourth grade and “went out” for months. Much to my surprise they were holding hands and he walked around with his arm around her sometimes, just like big kids. But two months ago Sandor broke up with Kennedy because “she got mean and bossy and stopped being fun to play with”.
I waited till we were in the car. “So what’s going on with Kennedy?”
He made a noise with his throat meaning he was disgusted. “She hits me and pushes me from behind and kicks me all the time on the playground.”
“Did you tell the teacher?”
“I tried but she wouldn’t listen. She told me to ignore it. But she does it every day.”
“Has she ever actually made contact when she kicked at you?”
“Yeah, lots of times. She got my knee last week but she was aiming for my nuts. If she was a dude I’d hit her so hard.”
Sandor has been in Taekwondo for seven years so his defensive skills are pretty sharp. Good thing Taekwondo teaches lots of groin blocks.
And he’s not afraid of a fight. A couple of weeks ago he came home with bloody knees. He told me a bigger kid grabbed his basket ball and threw it into a ditch then started walking away. Sandor ran up behind the kid jumped on his back. They both went down. Thankfully teachers didn’t see all this action or both boys would be in ISS.
But Sandor doesn’t know what to do with Kennedy…because she’s a girl. Teachers don’t pay attention…because she’s a girl. Sandor is ten and knows he would get into so much trouble if he hit a girl at school…but how’s he supposed to react?
It’s a reverse bully sexism situation.
Good thing there’s only three weeks of school left. Until then he better keep on blocking.
It really is unfair to the boys, it’s true. If I was in this situation, I would have to talk to her parents and explain that I do hope to have grandchildren one day and that if she was a boy she would have already been punched to the ground and even though he’s a pretty tough guy, it has to stop! And if it doesn’t, you can’t be responsible if one day, after she kicks him again, he loses it and gives her what she deserves! I have four boys that I taught not to hit girls, but there are some pretty mean girls out there today that I think take advantage of the the “never hit a girl” philosophy! Good luck, Sandor!
Capri, I think you’re right. I’ll probably talk to the recess teacher. He’s trying to handle it right but if she gets a lucky shot in you are right, he’ll blow up and hit her, hard. I don’t want him put in that situation either.
I vote he hits her. I’m over this don’t hit girls whatnot… Maybe she’ll learn how to bob and weave?
Hehe, Pooh neat story! When I was about 11-12 Cliff Harris and his family were at our house. He had a sister named Mary Ellen that was a year or tow older then me and a real smart ass, we did not get along. We were in our den with both of our families all there and we got to arguing about something. Well she up and slaps me hard in the face. Out of instinct and before I knew that I did, I hit her in the face and knocked her down. I go one of the worst beatings I ever had form my Dad and he said”Son you never hit a woman, no matter what she does to you”, I took that to heart and never have done that again! Even though there have been a few that deserved it. That is a lesson that all men need to learn!