Dear Adults, Sometimes you are so stupid I want to hit you in the face with a coffee mug. How can you be so self absorbed and blind?
Lexie has a fifteen year old friend who is very dear to our entire family. She has been part of our world and Lexie’s best friend since 3rd grade. Sadly, Julie is surrounded by adults with enormous problems. Problems with the law, problems with relationships and marriage, and as a result psychological problems. And these adults talk talk talk all the damn time about their problems and unfortunate circumstances.
Julie, is very mature for her age (she’s had to grow up fast) . She listens and counsels and absorbs all their heavy, dank garbage. She worries and frets because she’s totally submerged in all these issues all the time.
It’s summertime so she doesn’t even get a break during the day. She’s at home with the stupid adults and their problems.
The adults in her life have problems of their own making, they screwed up. And now Julie is swimming in the problem pool with them, 24/7. As a result she’s become depressed…very very depressed.
THE PROBLEMS ARE NOT JULIES! BUT THEY HAVE EATTEN HER LIFE UP BECAUSE HER ADULTS DON’T KNOW WHEN OR HOW TO SHUT UP!
Just because a kid is mature does not mean adults should tell them all the details of their stupid freakin’ issues and woes. Do not tell them all about your marriage problems. Do not tell them all about your relationship problems. Do not tell them all about your court case and legal issues and if you feel suicidal…don’t lean on a teenager! That’s not fair or right.
Julie should be thinking about cute boys, shoes, her tan line, school, her future, her phone, movies and friends. But she’s not. She’s worrying about the adults in her life because they talk AT her 24 hours a day, they blow up her phone, they text and they talk and talk and talk. She’s sitting in a vat of “other people’s problems” and she’s too kind and caring to tell everybody to shut the hell up.
I have never been more worried about a child in my life.
I agree. Sounds like she needs some time away. I’m sure you guys have her with you as much as you can, but still feel it’s not enough. Do you think she’d be able to get a job? That would give her some time and space and something else to think about.
Julie sounds like a strong girl who has been caught up in a tough life..she may be upset now but give julie time to recover and im sure she will be back to normal soon. Sometimes when kids get caught up in tough situations, all they need is someone to talk to and be understood and listened to and they feel better. As for the adults in her life, julie chooses who she talks to and she may not need to hear it but she may just as well want to hear it. Take care of julie because obviously needs friends to help her cope.
The problem with being fifteen is you can’t always pick who you are surronded by or who fills your house. I think Julie needs more time to get away and talk about anything and everything EXCEPT other people’s problems.
so sad.