My daughter, Mary, who is 23, came to hang out last night and we ended up talking about teenaged girls and sex.
Her understanding and vision of the situation were brutal and honest. I almost fell off the couch. Mary said in her off- the- cuff, brutally honest way, “The average Arkansas teenager girl has sex at 14 or 15. When that happens she thinks she’s in love and they will be together forever.”
But, as we all know, the loving couple, Sparky and Joe, will break up in 5 or 6 months. Unfortunately, Sparky gave into him around month 4 and they’ve had sex…lots of times.
Then there’s the next boyfriend and she really loves him. Why wouldn’t she have sex with him too, she loves him, a lot. And this goes on and on.
By the end of High School Sparky has had six serious boy friends and she’s had sex with four or five of them. Sex with four boys before getting out of high school? That’s a huge and horrible number. And when our girl, Sparky, started out with her first boyfriend, she thought he would be the only one…every.
The thing is, as Mary pointed out, once you make out, it never stops.
So girls, If you’re thinking about it…wait…just a little while. I know you’ve heard this thousands of times but…if he loves you, he’ll wait too. Crazy thought, huh? But it’s true.
“If love hurts, if it make you feel kind of squirly and gross, you’re doing it wrong.” Have faith that he loves you that much. And as long as you say “no” you have most of the power.
And as we all know, power is super sexy.